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Devastating Attraction

August 23, 2013

sad-woman-silhouetteI always try to keep my blogs uplifting, hoping to inspire people to live happier, healthier lives. But it’s not all sunshine and puppy dogs. Sometimes we have to address the difficult issues in life, even things we’d rather not deal with. There is a very sad ugliness that is all too common, something most people don’t want to think about, let alone discuss. In the course of my practice, working with the Emotion Code and other energy techniques, I sometimes find myself helping women who have been sexually abused as children. In many cases, it involved a close family member. I can’t imagine that any of the perpetrators felt good about what they were doing. However, they may not have been fully aware of the long-lasting damage they were doing. It results in lifelong emotional scarring that can affect a woman in many ways. (I realize that this happens to boys as well as girls, but I’m more familiar with this issue with women. So that’s what I’m writing about.)

For many people, it can be confusing and difficult to know how to deal with the uninvited lustful desires and actions of someone else toward them. For a child, it’s virtually impossible. From what I’ve seen, how a person reacts to lust that is directed toward them can have a significant impact on their life. Hopefully, for most people, unless someone is forcing themselves on them, they can deal with it fairly well. Most people are able to take a “thanks, but no thanks” attitude if the advances are not welcome. In many cases, it can be taken as a compliment, no matter what the response is. But some people are not able to handle it in a healthy manner. Some women may get virtually addicted to this type of attention. The more they feel desire toward them, no matter how crude or base, the more it builds their sense of self-esteem (although I don’t believe this is true self-esteem).

What I see more commonly is just the opposite. These women react to lust with fear and repulsion. Especially when the exposure to someone else’s lust came early in life, this lust can be closely linked to emotions of betrayal, disgust, fear and panic. These can also lead to feelings of worthlessness, hatred, resentment and other emotions. Later in life, it can be difficult to distinguish the lust that was directed toward them early on with the feelings associated with a normal healthy physical and emotional relationship. This can lead to sexual dysfunction in marriage or even the avoidance of romance with the opposite sex altogether. In cases where sexual abuse became linked to the approval of someone close to them, it can open the door to more abuse in the future. I’ve seen women go from one abusive relationship to another. It’s a confusing link between acceptance/approval and cruelty, although this isn’t always linked to early sexual abuse.

In most of the cases that I work with, the symptoms are not that extreme. There may be some sexual dysfunction and marital stress, but they’re usually tolerable. One of the most common symptoms that I see is obesity. In our culture, being overweight is not typically considered sexually attractive. So these women have an inner conflict. On the one hand, they want to be accepted and admired as being physically attractive. On the other hand, this little voice deep inside their head is constantly reminding them that to be “sexy” is the LAST thing that they want. Anything that would encourage lust toward them must be avoided at all costs. So on the outside (consciously), they’re doing everything they can to lose weight. Yet the subconscious mind is constantly thwarting their attempts. Fear prevents them from accomplishing their goal weight.

If you’ve read any of my previous blogs, you may be thinking by now, “isn’t this guy a chiropractor? What’s he doing delving into heavy psychological issues?” It’s true that I’m not a psychologist or a marriage counselor or anything like that. I don’t treat serious psychological problems. However, I am a certified Emotion Code practitioner. In the course of doing that and other energy work, I find myself dealing with the types of problems I’ve described (some in the office and some remotely). Between the work that I do and nearly 60 years of living on this planet, I do have a few things to say about this issue, although I don’t expect anyone to recognize me as an expert in this area. I have been able to help a number of women with this type of issue. The results range from minimal to miraculous. For more information on work that I do, you can visit my website at www.GoodHealthChiro.com or you can go to www.HealersLibrary.com to learn more about the Emotion Code in general. For questions and comments, use the form below.

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