Beating the Pandemic

September 21, 2020

Covid-19 has upended our lives and our society. It’s a pandemic that has affected people all over the world. I’ve heard many conspiracy theories about it. At times, it seems like more of a political issue than a health issue. I definitely feel that it could have been handled better. I believe that our attempts to contain the coronavirus have actually prolonged the pandemic. Consider the following equation:

E(V)-I=R   (This is not an official equation. As a health professional, this is how I see it and I believe most other health professionals would agree with the basic concept of it. I don’t know how to assign actual numbers to it. It’s simply to demonstrate the relationship between these concepts.)

In other words, exposure times virulence (or severity/contagiousness) minus the level of immunity equals the risk of getting sick. If you look at whether and how much you’re exposed to an antigen (virus) and how contagious it is, it’s an indication of how likely you are to get sick from it. Covid-19 is apparently a very severe and contagious virus. That’s why government and health officials have been putting so much emphasis on minimizing exposure through social distancing, wearing masks (another controversial issue), and so forth. However, there has been very little mention of the other part of the equation – that of immunity. Everyone is looking forward to a vaccine (yet another contested issue) to address the immunity issue. Even if you’re one of those who are anxiously awaiting it, it will take time to get the vaccine and get it distributed. Another possible solution that we’re looking forward to is called herd immunity. That’s when enough people in a community have sufficient immunity to a disease to make it unlikely that anyone will get sick from it and therefore spread it to others. Of course, we first have to build up immunity, which I don’t think is happening very much, which I will explain in a moment.

So, what’s wrong with focusing on limiting exposure? There a number of problems associated with focusing too much on exposure and not enough on immunity. First, we can never be perfect in preventing exposure. Some interaction is necessary. We need to eat, make a living, and so forth. When the pandemic first began and restrictions were being placed on social interaction, we thought it was going to be very short-term. I heard estimates from a few weeks to a few months. Now we’re several months into it with no end in sight. It’s like a wolf is at our door. So we retreated back into our home as we waited for the wolf to go away. Now it’s been so long that we’ve realized that the wolf isn’t going away. We’re at the point where we can no longer hide away in our house, even though it means facing the wolf. In this case, we can’t kill the wolf. So what’s left? We have to protect ourselves against the wolf. We have our own shield. It’s called immunity.

How do you build immunity? To create specific antibodies to a particular virus, it requires some degree of exposure. A vaccination is supposed to be a form of controlled exposure, which will then prompt your body to produce the appropriate antibodies. However, there are possible issues with vaccination, which I will not address here. For the most part, we build antibodies through simple, routine exposure. This creates a huge question for this coronavirus. Do we just go about our normal lives (without social distancing or masks) and hope that it doesn’t wipe us all out before we can build immunity? Government and health officials are obviously working to avoid that. It’s complicated. I believe that even the statistics that we’re getting are not reliable. From what I understand, it’s rare for an otherwise healthy person to die from COVID-19. People with serious health problems are definitely more at risk, but then that’s the case with any disease. The controversial question here is whether or not this coronavirus is the deadly killer disease that the media has made it out to be. Does it justify the fear that surrounds it? Perhaps not, although I can’t prove it. However, if we avoid exposure too much, we delay building specific immunity, which could prolong the pandemic.

Consider the simple hug. On the one hand, it’s the opposite of social distancing. Outside of coughing or sneezing in someone’s face, it could create one of the highest degrees of exposure. On the other hand, I believe that a hug can boost your immunity. Social distancing is isolating people and increasing stress. I believe that this is driving down immunity for many people. So, it’s not just that the immunity part of the equation is being largely ignored, but the efforts to minimize exposure may be actually hurting our immunity.

When the immunity is low, then when exposure is increased at all, the chances of getting sick go way up. In our area, now that the kids have returned to school and college classes are back in session, we’re seeing a huge increase in new positive cases of COVID-19. The knee-jerk reaction of many health and government officials is that we need to limit exposure more – that the social distancing and masks are not enough or that people aren’t following the guidelines. From their standpoint, to a certain extent, this may be true. However, when you look at it from the perspective that I’ve explained, I don’t think that this is the lack of social distancing, but rather the backlash of the social distancing that we’ve been doing. I believe that the social distancing, the fear, the general disruption of our lives and our economy have driven down our immunity. Without building our immunity, this wolf will never go away. I feel that the best approach is to get back to normal as soon as possible (the old normal, not the “new normal”).

I know that there are strong opinions about this both ways. If you’re pro-mask, pro-social distancing and so forth; if you’re convinced that this is a killer disease that requires every bit of avoidance that we can muster (no matter how long it takes or how much it affects our society), then I’m sure you will disagree with my position. I respect that. I would just like to ask you – have you stepped back, away from the fear, and examined the situation from both sides, or have you just taken the media’s word for everything? Think about it… That’s all I ask.

Coronavirus Controversy

April 26, 2020

CoronavirusCOVID-19. Have you heard anything about that lately? If you’re like me, you probably hear about that more than anything for the past several weeks. This coronavirus has changed life for the entire world. It’s getting more difficult to maintain patience as we wait for life to return to normal. Personally, my impatience is leading to great frustration, and I’m not even one of those whose life has been totally upended. I’ve been very blessed to keep my business going during this time when so many other businesses have been put on hold. Part of the frustration comes from the growing feeling that the extreme measures that we’ve been subjected to may not have even been appropriate. I’m not suggesting that COVID-19 is not a big deal and should have never been taken seriously. My heart goes out to those who have and are suffering from this horrible illness, and especially to those who have lost loved ones to it. This is not your standard, everyday flu bug. I hear estimates from twice as bad to ten times more deadly than normal influenza. Some see this as something very unique, while others see it as just as a particularly nasty strain in an ever-increasing list of viruses. Whichever the truth is, I believe that it’s time to return to normal life and that perhaps this massive disruption should have never occurred. There are two main reasons for this.

First, when all of these restrictions and social distancing came into play in early March, I don’t believe that we were at the forefront of the pandemic, but rather at the tail end of it. Here in Utah, I’ve been watching the statistics for COVID-19. Every day, they report more and more cases of the disease and usually a few more deaths. Sometimes it seems like the pandemic is getting worse, in spite of all of the social distancing. However, there’s one statistic that shows otherwise. That is the percentage of positive test results. That number is not increasing, but is starting to decrease. In fact, those numbers have been flat ever since they started tracking it. It’s been consistently around 5% of all tests for COVID-19 have come back positive. Now it’s down around 4%. This tells me that it’s not the disease that’s increasing, but rather the number of people getting tested. However, the most interesting part of these statistics is that the percentage has been basically flat all along. In a pandemic where the disease was actively and rapidly spreading, I would think that you would see the percentages going up significantly, at least at first. Then you would hopefully see the numbers start coming down as a benefit of all the social distancing that has been put in place. The fact that the numbers have always stayed flat suggests that perhaps the pandemic has been going on longer than we thought, and now, it’s pretty much endemic across the population. To me, that would explain the flat numbers. Therefore, the pandemic already occurred before any of the social distancing guidelines began. Perhaps we closed the barn door after the horse has already escaped, as the saying goes. So, if the damage has already been done, why are we going through this huge economic and social disruption? Many thousands of people die from the flu every year. However, that’s considered “normal”. We don’t shut down our entire society for it. Viruses will always be there. I suspect that newer, more deadly strains will come along from time to time. Where does it end? We can’t just all stay home all the time. For this current pandemic, I don’t believe it’s growing and spreading. It’s the awareness of COVID-19 that’s spreading. Before (when I believe that the pandemic started a few months ago), we didn’t know to test for it. People were getting sick and dying, but it would have been attributed to regular flu and pneumonia. Now, as more and more people are getting tested, the numbers keep rising. But if the disease has already infiltrated our society, you would expect to see more and more cases as time goes along, even though the percentage of positive tests aren’t increasing.

My other point is that, especially in light of my previous point, is that this may be one of those cases where the cure is worse than the disease (looking at the overall situation of our society, not the disease itself). The social and economic costs are too great. We need to work, to earn money, to interact socially, to do group activities, etc. Schools, churches, and many varieties of businesses are important parts of our culture. Our economy relies on people getting out and working – not only to provide for themselves and their families, but to produce goods and services to enable us to thrive. One thing that’s especially confusing is that during this health crisis, many forms of healthcare are virtually shut down. Most forms of elective healthcare, including surgeries, have been put on hold. I spoke to my podiatrist a few weeks ago and was told that he had cancelled or postponed 35 surgeries. People don’t have surgery for the fun of it. People need care. But it goes beyond that. What about the nurses, medical assistants, and all of the other healthcare workers that would be involved in those surgeries? And it’s not just their pocketbooks, but all of the other products and services that they would spend money on, thus continuing the flow of money in our economy. My daughter is a medical assistant. She’s on furlough because their clinic has cut back to only the most essential services, thus making it unnecessary to have as many workers there as usual. Again, people don’t go to the doctor for entertainment. All of the restrictions and press regarding this pandemic is creating more physical and emotional stress for people. One of the biggest deterrents to having a healthy immune system is stress. So where is the logic in reducing healthcare and creating more stress during a health crisis?

I’m very concerned about the long-term effects to our economy. People are going into debt, using their savings, and going without many goods and services. The government has stepped in to help – sending money to almost everyone and providing loans to businesses. What I don’t hear people asking about is where this money is coming from. Didn’t the United States already have a huge amount of debt? Did they just have trillions of dollars lying around that they didn’t know what to do with? I don’t think so. That money has to come from somewhere. It will need to be made up. They can print more money, but that lowers the value of the dollar. Doesn’t that lead to recession? There will be backlash. And all of this came about, not as a direct result of the virus, but because of our reaction to it.

Not all of the consequences of this social distancing have been negative. I’m sure many people have avoided getting sick (from all the viruses, not just COVID-19). People have become more aware of how not to pick up or spread pathogens. They have learned how to cope at home and prepare for emergencies. Some have learned more creative ways of caring for other people. And even if this whole exercise in social distancing was an unnecessary mistake, we don’t need to expend a lot of energy pointing fingers and finding blame. However, I believe the time has come to return to normal life. What about spreading infection and causing the pandemic to flare up again? If the coronavirus has already spread through the population, as I suspect it mostly has, it won’t change the pandemic very much to return to normal life and interactions. Let’s get back to normal now!

 

 

Split Energy Syndrome

March 7, 2020

I had wanted to gather more information about this before sharing it with the world. However, word has already gotten out. So it’s time to speak out about what I am calling “Split Energy Syndrome”.

I always seek for inspiration and I can often find new things through muscle testing. Not long ago, I made an important discovery. At first, I thought it would be very rare. I even wondered if I would ever see it again. But since I learned to test for it, I have found that it’s actually quite common, though definitely not in a majority of people. Here’s how it came about…

First, you have to understand that many things led up to this. I had developed the Vital Balance Technique (I will provide more information on that later), which is an enhanced form of muscle testing (expanding on principles I learned from the Emotion Code and the Body Code). Part of that technique involves energetic balancing of the brain. I had noticed that “indigo children” tested and balanced differently from other people. This led to my discovery of a straight-forward test to determine if someone had this indigo brain energy.

I am indigo myself, which helps me to be somewhat more intuitive when doing energy work with patients. A few months ago, I was working on a patient and it “felt” like I was working on multiple people. As I investigated further, I found that there were indeed multiple versions of this person, although it was not a case of multiple personalities. The different versions of the person had different spinal misalignments and different energy imbalances. Most significantly, the second version, which I call the background version, was indigo, even though the person did not test as indigo at first. I asked (through muscle testing) if I can or should attempt to merge the two versions and got a definite “no”. I got the impression that they were separate for a reason.

I had to work on both versions separately. I quickly found that the background version was a lot more imbalanced (messed up) than the forefront version. Later, I found that this is typical. We aren’t consciously aware of the background version. At first, I thought that it was created by the subconscious mind as an extra receptacle for excessive negative energy (trapped emotions and so forth). Later, I learned that it’s there from birth and goes along with the indigo brain energy (which is more associated with the spirit than the body). I compare it to a spare bedroom in your house that you’re not doing anything with. It may be fairly clean and empty at first, but every time you don’t know what to do with something, you stick it in that room. Over time, it can get so full of junk that you can barely walk into the room. So it is with the background version. It gets very cluttered with negative energy over time.

One way you can look at this split energy is that the mind of the brain and the mind of the spirit didn’t mesh and become one as they were supposed to in the beginning. The key seems to be the indigo brain energy. This seems to either enable the split to exist or make it more difficult for the two parts to mesh. It may even vary from person to person.

With this initial patient, as I continued to work on both parts of her, I saw the background version of her get better and better. Then one day it was no longer there. What’s more, the forefront version of her now tested as indigo! The two parts had merged and brought the indigo into the mix. I no longer have to work on two versions of her and the two parts have remained one. Whether everyone with split energy will no longer have split energy as we get the two parts both balanced, I can’t say for sure. At first, I assumed that they would always merge once sufficiently balanced, but time will tell. Perhaps some subconscious minds prefer it split.

Once I had this one patient’s split energy under control, I began to wonder if there might be others who have split energy. I thought maybe someday I would run across it again. So I asked through muscle testing if there was some point that would correspond to this condition. I can’t explain all of the methodology without training you on the Vital Balance Technique, but I will say that it involves the intentional use of the acupuncture point CV21. Once I discovered this and started testing with it, I started finding quite a few people with split energy. I’ve actually found that it’s not rare at all, even though most people don’t have it. In the last few months, I’ve found around 50 people with it, and I haven’t even been doing much testing outside of my own practice. As I said, the indigo trait seems to be the key. If someone tests as indigo on initial testing, they don’t have split energy. If they did, it would be in the background and would not show up with superficial testing. When there is split energy, the background version is always indigo. So is everyone indigo, either superficially or deep inside? From what I’ve seen, no. I’ve tested people that are neither indigo nor do they have split energy. I would say that’s the case with most people.

The reactions that I’ve gotten from people when I’ve explained to them that they have split energy and what it is have been pretty consistent. Even though it sounds strange coming out of my mouth (I’m actually a very conservative person), almost without fail, they respond with “it feels right” and “it makes total sense”. It’s a part of them that they had no conscious awareness of, but once they hear of it, it rings true because deep down in their subconscious, they’ve known all along that this background part of their mind was there.

I explain to people that finding split energy in them is not really a bad thing. It’s something that they’ve always had. It’s not an illness (mental or otherwise). I don’t even know for sure that it’s something that needs to be fixed. However, if we’re not aware of the background version of them, they’re not able to get as complete treatment, especially when doing energy work. Both parts of their subconscious mind are exerting an influence on the physical body, although the background version (being deeper and more associated with the spirit) is somewhat weaker in that regard. However, finding it and working on it may enable a person to get more results with treatment when they have problems that have not responded well to treatment they’ve been getting.

So, in a nutshell, what is this split energy that I’m referring to? I believe you can look at it as a compartmentalization of the subconscious mind. It’s not multiple personalities – it’s still just you. It’s not the good side vs. the bad side, the happy side vs. the sad side, or even a separation of physicality and spirituality. It’s just an interesting finding that enables me to provide more complete energetic treatment to my patients.

Can I prove any of this scientifically? No. It’s just an interesting finding with the muscle testing techniques that I use. If it sounds crazy to you, I don’t blame you. If you choose not to believe it, I’m fine with that. Those who have split energy and are receiving modified energy work to address it are happy with it and feel deep inside that it’s right. This is not part of chiropractic or being a chiropractic physician. These are simply observations I’m sharing from my energy work and muscle testing.

If you would like more information on indigo brain energy, visit my website at http://www.goodhealthchiro.com. I wish you good health and joy in your life.

More on Indigo, Crystal and Rainbow Children

June 26, 2019

In my last article, I wrote about indigo children (people). I provided a summarized list of traits that I have seen and that others have described. However, as I mentioned, I don’t think you can positively show that someone is indigo or not based on these traits. No two people are alike. Some people have many of the traits and are not indigo. Some people are indigo but only have a few of the traits. I’m not sure that you can accurately determine if someone is indigo or not from a list of traits that a person may or may not identify with. Something more objective is needed. I believe I have found an objective test. In working with indigo people and doing brain balancing as part of a technique that I developed, I noticed a different pattern of brain energy in indigo people. (This partly involves muscle testing. It’s not an EEG.) Over time, I was able to develop the testing banner2_jpeg (2)further where I could easily tell if someone did or did not have this particular brain energy that I have come to associate with indigos. So I believe that my test is reliable for determining if someone is indigo, without having to simply rely on a list of personality traits.

Most people that I test do not show up as indigo. Being indigo is not very common. Some people, when they learn that they’re not indigo, feel disappointed. It makes them feel less special. Plus they were looking for something to explain some of their unique qualities. As I said in my last article, being indigo is both good and bad. It may give you special talents, but it also gives you special problems. The main thing to remember is that everyone has special gifts, which I believe are given to them by God. Being indigo identifies you as a person with a certain kind of brain energy. It does not make you more special than everyone else. It is unique since it’s not common. However, YOU are unique, whether you’re indigo or not.

So far, I’m the oldest indigo that I’ve found. There may be some older, but I doubt very many. I recently found that my best friend from high school, who is just 5 days younger than me, is also indigo. I believe that’s why we immediately felt so comfortable with each other and liked to spend so much time together (similar brain energy). I was born in 1955. It’s said that many indigos came in the 70’s and 80’s. I personally believe that it’s still increasing, though they are sometimes known by different terms.

Some people have asked me about Crystal Children and Rainbow Children. They are said to be the newer “versions” of Indigo Children. This overall classification of these people with these particular special gifts have been collectively referred to as “Star Children”. Some say that the first wave of star children was indigo, the second was crystal, and the third (and perhaps last) was/is rainbow. I am in the process of studying more about crystal and rainbow children. I have gathered some information but I don’t have a lot to share yet. However, I can’t say that I agree with the consecutive wave idea. I have found indigos from all age groups – from my own all the way down to infants. Indigos are still coming into the world and are probably increasing. What then are crystal and rainbow children? I believe that they are variations of indigo. I have found individuals who test differently from indigos, whom I am classifying as crystal. (I don’t mean to offend anyone in choosing my own way of classifying indigos, crystals and rainbows. But hey, I’m indigo. That’s what we do!) When I can give more definitive information on crystals and rainbows, I will follow up with another article.

So what am I treating with indigo people? I cannot change the fact that they’re indigo, nor would I want to try. However, there are a number of issues that most (if not all) indigos have to deal with, which I can help them with. Indigos’ brain energy reaches out further than other people. This is one of the main reasons why we’re more intuitive, empathetic and effective healers. However, this also makes us more vulnerable to negative energy from other people. We tend to have more energetic imbalances in our brain. And because we tend to be more sensitive and have a harder time fitting in, we need to work on our emotions more. I use a variety of energy balancing techniques to help with these issues.

As an older indigo, and one who is trained and experienced in healing arts, I definitely feel that part of my mission here in this life is to find and help other indigos. Of course, most of the people I work with are not indigo and I help them too. However, I feel especially called to help other indigos. This has a two-fold purpose. For one thing, many indigos don’t deal well with their unique qualities. They can become withdrawn, depressed, distracted, confused, etc. Some even turn to drugs and alcohol to try to cope. I use the Emotion Code, brain balancing and other modalities to help them to live effectively in this world where they may not even feel like they belong. Secondly, I want them to be able to use their gift effectively to help themselves and others to have more joy and success in this life. Being indigo certainly isn’t all bad. Properly understood and somewhat controlled, this unique brain energy can be viewed as the real gift that it is.

If you haven’t already done so, I invite you to visit my website at http://www.goodhealthchiro.com/indigo.html to get more information on indigo children and to sign up for a free, no obligation test to find out if you or your loved one is indigo. Always remember that the purpose of life is to have joy. I wish for you every happiness!

Are you an Indigo Child???

June 19, 2019

I am an “Indigo Child”. And I’m a healer. In my practice of energy work and chiropractic, I have encountered a numbebanner2_jpeg (2)r of other indigo children. One is in his late 20’s, one is a young boy living in Shanghai, China, and one is an infant. The others that I have encountered are adults and children of varying ages. What is an indigo child (or adult)? Wikipedia describes them as “children who are believed to possess special, unusual, and sometimes supernatural traits or abilities. The idea is based on concepts developed in the 1970s by Nancy Ann Tappe and further developed by Lee Carroll and Jan Tober.” This is a New Age term used to describe people who have been born within the last several decades who have a stronger, somewhat different brain energy.

From my own observations and descriptions from others, the following is a summary of traits that are common among indigo people:

  • Naturally intuitive, maybe even a little psychic – able to sense and feel things that many people are unaware of.
  • Non-conformist – resists rigid authority, does not like to follow well-worn paths, prefers to choose their own way (not even conforming to non-mainstream groups).
  • Often feels out of place – doesn’t “belong” – since their energy is different, they often feel like they don’t fit in, especially in school and many other social situations. They’re often a loner, except with people who have similar energy.
  • May be prone to depression, ADD/ADHD, and other social/emotional difficulties.
  • Generally higher IQ – may be very analytical and have a desire to understand how things work (including life).
  • Creative and inventive – music and/or art is important. When combined with non-conformity, they often prefer to come up with new ideas than to use established tools and techniques.
  • Though feelings of inferiority are common, they generally feel that they’re better at seeing the big picture and understanding what’s happening in the world. People say that indigos are very self-assured. They generally know that they’re special, but since they don’t feel like they belong, they often struggle with their feelings of self-worth. Since they often are more assured of their viewpoint, they can be seen as arrogant or cocky. They have high expectations of themselves and others.
  • Are empathetic, curious, and strong-willed.
  • Possess a clear sense of self-definition and purpose – they’re often a leader, have a strong sense of integrity, and have a passion to find and fulfill their purpose in life.
  • Strong tendency toward spirituality, often exhibited early in life. May not be religious unless they find a religion that addresses their drive for purpose and meaning in life. May also feel drawn to the paranormal.
  • They often have a strong feeling of entitlement – feeling like they deserve to be here.
  • Tend to be more emotional – feel more deeply than most people. They don’t want to hurt or disappoint anyone. Money often takes a back seat to fulfillment.

Can you relate to some or all of these traits? If so, you may be an indigo. Do these describe your child, a friend, or someone else? They could be indigo. But how can you really know? No two people are alike. Remarkably, I have two indigo staff members. Their personalities are very different, although they share some of these same characteristics. Someone could have practically every one of these traits but not be indigo. Someone else could only relate to a few of these traits, but definitely be indigo. So how would you know?

Having worked with several indigo children over the last couple of years, and using muscle testing and brain balancing techniques that I use (part of the Vital Balance technique), I’ve noticed certain patterns. Recently I’ve been using some of this testing on almost all of my patients. While it still appears that indigo children are a small part of the overall population, there are many more than I had originally thought! You’re seldom going to find something you’re not looking for. Now that I’m looking for them, they’re not quite as rare as I thought.

Is being indigo a good thing or a bad thing? The answer is a definite yes. In other words, it can be both a blessing and a curse. Indigos can be great healers, but they tend to be far more vulnerable to picking up other people’s negative energy. They may be very spiritual, but are more likely to have attachments from dark forces that they don’t want. They may be more inventive, able to see the bigger picture, be smarter, but feel like an outsider, not a part of the group, which can lead to depression and lack of self-worth, and so on. So there’s plenty of good and bad.

Indigos need special consideration when I do my energy and emotion work. I’ve been able to help them lead more stable and enjoyable lives. I’ve been able to help some of them develop their special talents more so they can help others.

Would you like to know if you or a member of your family is indigo? As I said, I’ve developed a short test of the brain energy to determine if someone is indigo. For a limited time, I’m offering this test for free! You can be in the office, on the phone, or just email. (I do a lot of this work remotely by proxy.) To arrange for this free, no obligation test, go to http://www.goodhealthchiro.com/indigo.html.

 

The Trap of Self-pity

November 27, 2018

I recently had a breakthrough in my life. Through muscle testing and inspiration, it was pointed out to me that I have an issue with self-pity. As I worked on it, I could remember so many times in my life that I’ve felt sorry for myself. I could see how this self-pity was interfering with my life and holding me back. I have partially conquered this issue in my life and am now beginning to see the fruits of it. I don’t believe I’m the only one that has this problem. Self-pity, I believe, is a huge problem for a lot of people in their lives, even though it may not be obvious. The main fruits of self-pity are bitterness, discouragement and depression.Sad pity

Why do we tend to feel sorry for ourselves so much? For some, it could be that they were raised to look at life that way. Perhaps your parents always dwelt on their own problems, or they kept reminding you of your problems. They may have been lovingly expressing sympathy, but inadvertently teaching you to focus on your problems and feel sorrow about them. For others, it could have been the opposite situation. Perhaps no one seemed to care about your problems. You may have felt that the only person you were going to get any sympathy was from yourself. So you learned to feel sorry for yourself. After a while, it was such a normal way of thinking that you became totally unaware of it.

How do we know if we’re feeling sorry for ourselves? Self-pity is an inward-facing emotion. Possible signs include:

  • Moping about or spending a lot of time thinking about your problems and difficult circumstances
  • Repeated or sustained feelings of anger, frustration, depression, resentment or worry about the situation that you’re in
  • Feeling like you’re never good enough or worthy to receive the good things in life that you desire
  • Feelings of inferiority based on your current circumstances
  • Feeling like you just want to give up
  • Dwelling excessively on your own shortcomings and perceived failures

“But Dr. Don,” you say, “my problems are very real! I’ve had terrible things happen to me, many of which were not even my fault! I think I’m entitled to feel sorry for myself. My issues are not self-pity but the horrible crap that I have to put up with!”

You might even say, “I’ve been through a lot. I’ve EARNED the right to be this miserable!”

Perhaps you have. It is certainly not my intention to minimize your problems. We all have issues, from minor annoyances to horrible, gut-wrenching trauma. The question is, do you want to continue to be a victim of the things that have happened to you (or perhaps even the mistakes you’ve made), or do you want to take back control of your life? I’ve known many people who seem to glory in their misery. They want the world to see what a terrible hand they’ve been dealt in life. They want to invite everyone around them to their “pity party”. And again, I’m not making light of their problems. However, wallowing in their misery has become a part of their life.

Keller selfpityIt takes courage to break free of the pattern of self-pity. It takes an open mind and humility to even see the problem. It means taking responsibility for your life and happiness. It can be much easier to blame your circumstances on everything and everyone around you. If you really need to continue wallowing in your misery a while longer, or if you’re not ready to take charge of your situation in life, then stop reading this. Come back when you’re ready. I won’t judge you.

Still with me? Okay. Let’s charge ahead. And that’s much of the solution – KEEP MOVING FORWARD. Half of the solution you may have already accomplished at this point. If a light has just turned on in your head, if you’re starting to realize that you’ve been indulging in self-pity and can see how it’s been holding you back in your life, you’re already halfway there!

I will say this here and now – discouragement is of the devil (the adversary). God will Carnegie selfpityNEVER tell you to give up, stop trying, and just pack it in. Discouragement is one of the first fruits of self-pity. Discouragement makes you just want to give up, to sit down in the middle of the proverbial road and mope in your misery. Once you recognize the patterns of feeling sorry for yourself, then whenever such thoughts come into your mind, you can toss them aside and replace them with “keep moving forward”.

Remember that you can’t steer a parked car.

Does this mean that you stop taking care of your own needs and desires? Definitely not. What do you do when you’re hungry? Do you just plop down in your easy chair and whine about how hungry you are? I hope not! You go get something to eat. If you have nothing to eat, you work on getting some money, or going to the store, or whatever you need to do to get some food. It won’t fill your belly to just sit down and moan about it.

That same principle applies to every other problem in your life. You must focus on the solution, not the problem. Once you acknowledge and understand what the problem is, there’s no need to dwell any further on the problem or how miserable and complicated it’s making your life. Instead, toss aside your negative thoughts and start working on how to solve the problem. If you cannot see any reasonable solution that you can carry out anytime soon, then resolve to have patience. Remember the Prayer of Serenity, which I’ve referenced before –

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.”

This also reminds me of another saying – “Work will win when wishy-washy wishing won’t”. Keep moving forward!

I must also mention here that true clinical depression is often not the result of self-pity. There can be an imbalance or deficiency of certain chemicals in your brain that cause feelings of depression, even when life is going along okay. You can’t just “cheer up”. If this is the case for you, be sure to see your doctor. (I also help some people with this condition using drugless approaches.) In this case, what I’m saying in this post mostly does not apply to you. However, many people with minor clinical depression can needlessly wind up in a downward spiral. In that case, instead of being initially depressed about your situation, you get physically/chemically depressed and then look for reasons to justify your depression. That makes sense. However, as you find the reasons, the depression gets worse because now you have more motivation to be depressed! So in this situation, the above principles DO apply. Maybe you can’t completely shake the depression, but you may be able to control it better so that it doesn’t become disabling.

Share this blog post. I’ve never asked for this before, but I feel the need to get this message out to as many people as possible. Self-pity manifests itself as other emotions. It’s also not something we like to admit to. Therefore, it’s generally overlooked. Since it is the foundation of some of these other emotional issues, it could be why it’s so hard sometimes to correct ongoing feelings of depression, lack of self-worth, discouragement, etc. I may yet write a whole book about this, but for now, I’ll have to settle for this short blog post. My business has picked up so much, I don’t have much time for writing. In the meantime…

LOOK UP! KEEP MOVING FORWARD!

Raging Against What Is

September 20, 2018

people-1316292__340Do you ever find yourself in a situation that is totally unacceptable and yet there isn’t a darn thing you can do about it? This can be one of the greatest sources of frustration in your life. I like to quote from the Prayer of Serenity used by Alcoholics Anonymous:

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.”

I’ve written previously about the fine line we walk between complacency and acceptance; between moving forward with enthusiasm and confidence versus living with the circumstances that we’ve been given. My patients will never hear these words from me, “You just have to learn to live with it.” I don’t give up. I don’t believe that because a solution doesn’t immediately present itself or that I don’t currently know of any way to provide meaningful treatment for a specific issue right now, that the solution to the problem does not or will not exist. How arrogant it is for a doctor to say that if they don’t have the answer, there is no answer!

Let’s look at that Prayer of Serenity. The first request is to have the serenity to accept the things you cannot change. The fact is that there are things you cannot change, at least not in a big way or right away. Imagine that there’s a hurricane bearing down on your city and your house is right in the way. You can board up your windows, secure your belongings and head for higher ground. However, you cannot stop the hurricane! You can rage against it all you want, but it will come whether you like it or not. Perhaps prayer and positive thinking could change its course. However, you yourself do not have the power to stop it or change it in any way.

The second request is that we have the courage to change the things we can. If there is anything that can be done to improve a situation, certainly we should act. Sometimes it does require courage. Remember, if it were easy, you would have done it already. We can do hard things. We can move forward even when the odds seem to be against us.

Lastly, the prayer asks for the wisdom to know the difference between what we can and can’t change. There’s the real kicker. We can so easily be blinded. Our judgement is often clouded by strong emotions. We can feel helpless even though we may be surrounded by solutions. Or we can be ignorantly over-confident, thinking we should be able to easily resolve a situation, but it just isn’t happening, no matter how hard we try; causing us to rage against the situation. This creates huge amounts of stress, which hurts us physically, emotionally and spiritually.

One thing that I would add is that it’s seldom black and white as the prayer seems to suggest. There are some things that we absolutely cannot do anything about, which we just have to accept and be serene as we can about it. However, most things, we can do something about. We may not be able to completely make the problem go away, but we can lessen the problem, find ways to work around the problem, or lessen the effects of the problem. Sometimes we can do something about the problem, but it takes a lot of time and effort. That requires a lot of patience, which really takes us back to the first line of the prayer. We still need serenity to accept things we can’t change 100% RIGHT NOW.

I have great respect for the strength and simplicity of that prayer, but if I were to change it at all, this would be my humble suggestion:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change immediately or completely,
Courage to change the things I can to whatever degree I have the strength and capacity,
And wisdom to know the difference as it stands right now,
As well as patience, determination and tenacity to keep moving forward no matter the odds
.

So don’t stress yourself by raging against what is the current situation. Find peace in doing what you can to improve your situation at this moment and every moment going forward. You cannot coast to your goal, since it usually lies uphill. However, you can feel serenity in taking it one step at a time, whether big or small, depending on your strength and capacity. Still know that there are some circumstances that you may not be able to change. We work with whatever circumstances we find ourselves currently in, whether those circumstances are our own making or have been thrust upon us. We just keep moving forward in faith.

The Tricky Balance of Self-Mastery

May 1, 2018

ScalesI’ve been getting advice and guidance from Kirk Duncan, a local teacher and mentor. A principle that I learned from him goes like this – self-accountability + self-forgiveness = self-mastery. I really like that. And the more I think about it, the more I’m convinced that this principle is one of the main keys to success for anything in life.

There has to be a balance at all times. If you’re too much on the side of self-forgiveness, you’ll tend to be way too easy on yourself. You’ll just take the attitude that everything is fine and you don’t need to work or improve; that just getting by is all that’s required. In a way, it’s a nice way to be. Less stressful and actually healthier physically and mentally. The problem is that you don’t progress that way. You can’t coast your way to greater success in life. Pretty much anything worthwhile to accomplish in life takes a certain amount of effort, discipline and even sacrifice.

On the other hand, if you’re too much on the side of self-accountability, you’ll be way too hard on yourself. You will have no patience with your faults and weaknesses. If you’re a real go-getter, you may be thinking that you shouldn’t have patience with yourself like that. But it creates a great deal of stress in you that can tear you up inside, destroy health and relationships, and rob you of all happiness. Life is a journey that was meant to be enjoyed. Besides, what I’ve seen in my own life and the lives of others is that without self-forgiveness, you really don’t move forward effectively.

Here’s a little-known secret – success is often the product of joy, not the cause of it! Too many people are pushing themselves harder and harder, making themselves sick and miserable to accomplish their goals, while actually pushing their goals further away. Being sick and miserable does NOT attract success and happiness. Yes, progressing in life and accomplishing goals take effort and sacrifice, but you can do it while feeling joy, not putting off experiencing joy until your goal is accomplished. That’s where self-forgiveness comes in. If you’re really driven to accomplishing great things, you may be prone to beating yourself up every time you fall short of being where you want to be or finishing something you wanted to have done. Feelings of self-worth help to attract greater success. But if you’re constantly beating yourself up every time you make a mistake or don’t accomplish what you wanted to do, you will devalue yourself and put yourself into a place where it’s difficult to think positive and attract good things into your life.

So the key here is balance. If you can maintain accountability for your performance and setting and working toward goals, while forgiving yourself for falling short and for your natural limitations and weaknesses, you can move forward and accomplish great things in your life. It requires a healthy amount of self-honesty and the ability to distinguish reasons from excuses. But even when we fall victim to our own excuses, even the lame ones, we have to understand that we are human and as such, have natural faults and weaknesses. It’s important that we forgive ourselves but then immediately recommit to get back on track and do better next time. Just like a baby learning to walk, there is not a limitation on the number of failed attempts to do better. As long as you commit yourself and keep moving forward, you are a success!

 

The Secret Power of Positivity

March 21, 2018

+++++++ I recently attended another seminar with Kirk Duncan – a very motivational trainer. He spoke about a principle that I’ve known about for a long time but had discounted. Perhaps I didn’t really understand it until now. (I’m still learning about it.) You’ve heard of the saying “garbage in, garbage out” (GIGO). I know that computer programmers used to say that a lot. This applies to everything in life. To put it more broadly, as Kirk was teaching, the type of energy we put into anything will determine the type of results (energy) we get back out.

We’ve known about this principle for a long time in relation to plants. It was discovered a number of years ago that if you play soft, elevating music to plants, they grow better. Many people claim that they’re even affected by the things you say to them. Masaru Emoto used this same principle in his research with water. He wrote a book entitled The Hidden Messages in Water­. In it, he talked about how he would play certain types of music around water. He would then quickly freeze it and look at how the water crystallized. With classical music, it created beautiful even patterns. With hard raucous music (like heavy metal), the ice crystals were very misshapen and disorderly. He got the same kind of results with speech. Gentle affirming words created beautiful crystals, while angry, hateful words created ugly crystals. Writing words on the containers, such as love and hate, did the same thing.

All that is interesting, but it may not make a whole lot of difference in your life. Where it truly makes a difference is with people and situations. In the Bible, it says “Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.” (Proverbs 16:24). Words contain powerful energy. They can be healing or hurtful. What you say cannot be unsaid, even with an apology. Even when you’re joking and the person on the other end knows that you’re joking, negative remarks can be damaging to one’s self-esteem and confidence. It even goes further than that. If you believe in the power of the subconscious mind (as I do), you would realize that even your thoughts about another person have an effect on them. We’re all in contact with each other on an energetic level. But even if you don’t believe that, you must realize that your attitude about another person will come out in your speech toward them, how you look at them, things you do or don’t do for them, etc. You cannot entirely hide your feelings about another person when you’re interacting with them on a regular basis!

But what about the thoughts you think about yourself and your life? Wouldn’t the same rules apply? The type of energy you put in will determine the type of results that you get. You can’t grump your way to success. You can’t complain enough to make your life happy and enjoyable. It doesn’t work that way. If you put in negativity, including fear, doubt, anger, etc., your results will not be what you would like them to be. I’ve written a couple of times about the power of gratitude. Gratitude, faith, love, confidence, etc. will elevate your thinking, open your mind to new possibilities, calm your fears, and drastically improve your chances for success.

Easy, right? Of course not. If your life is humming along and you’re setting and meeting goals and so forth, this kind of thinking may come easier for you. But if you’re depressed and discouraged, if life is not looking at all rosy, if you’re faced with crushing burdens and hardships, how do you turn your thinking around? I’ve listened to lots of motivational speakers who tell me to think a certain way. I keep looking for that little switch in my brain that will change my thinking from negative to positive. I haven’t found it. Have you? I haven’t mastered this, but I’m working on it. I have found that if you start with little things, then you can start to get a handle on it. Kirk Duncan teaches us to say “I manage my emotions; my emotions don’t manage me.” Of course, even he knows that it’s a long process to get to that point. One thing you have to realize is that often times; negative thinking is simply a bad habit. Like any habit, you have to consciously work on changing it, and it takes a lot of practice. Pay attention to your thoughts. When you catch yourself thinking negatively about yourself, another person, or a situation in your life, quickly replace it with something positive. I’m not saying to be complacent. For example, if you don’t like your job, you don’t have to stick with it for the rest of your life. However, thinking positive thoughts about your job will not lock you into it and it may just make it more enjoyable, which will improve your performance and may lead to a better job.

Remember, positive in = positive out. Negative in = negative out. Whatever you want to grow and improve in your life – your income, your marriage, your performance, whatever – invest positive energy into it and stop putting in negative energy. I believe you’ll be a whole lot happier and successful if you do.

Don’t Sneeze on Me!

February 28, 2018

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Are you a germaphobe? Or in other words, do you suffer from mysophobia? Do you freak out or are tempted to spray a can of Lysol in your face if someone sneezes within 40 feet of your personal space? Clinically, you probably don’t have this phobia. However, I see a lot of people that seem to come close to it. Do you subscribe to germ theory – the idea that many diseases are caused by microorganisms (or pathogens) such as bacteria and viruses? If you do, you’re not alone. Most people see it that way. And I’m not here to disprove it or say that germ theory is all wrong. However, I believe we need a more balanced view.

Blaming illness on infection by common germs is like a drunk driver who hit a telephone pole blaming his injuries on the telephone pole. Was the telephone pole directly responsible for the damage to his car and his body? Yes, of course. Was the telephone pole the cause of his accident? Of course not! He was driving drunk! That’s why he hit the pole.

I don’t dispute the existence of bacteria, viruses, and other pathogens or their role in illness and infection. Even I have taken antibiotics when I had infections that could not be controlled by more natural means. And yes, there are some pathogens for which our immune systems cannot mount an adequate defense (such as Ebola). However, in most instances, our immune systems are capable of fighting off illness or infection due to reasonable exposure to common germs.

Pathogens, or the illnesses they are related to, are rated on two scales – morbidity and mortality. Basically, morbidity means what percentage of people who are exposed to a pathogen actually get sick from it. Mortality is the percentage of people who die from it. There are many factors that affect morbidity and mortality, outside of how mean the germ is. These include your basic level of health, stress levels, nutrition, age, etc. Often times, the very young (whose immune system hasn’t matured yet) and the very old (whose immune system is worn down) are the most susceptible.

Our susceptibility to illness varies from day to day, sometimes from moment to moment. For instance, strong negative emotions such as fear and anger seem to put our immune system on hold temporarily, leaving us vulnerable. Excessive sugar intake (as with most Americans) can cause our immune system to be depressed. Lack of sleep, too much stress, vertebral subluxations, poor eating habits (i.e. junk food – high in toxins and chemicals, low in nutrition), and other factors also reduce our immunity.

Some of these things are hard to avoid. Lifestyle changes are generally difficult to make overnight. So it is wise to reduce the exposure. That doesn’t mean to be a germaphobe, but just exercise a little caution. It’s important to note that many viruses (such as those that cause cold and flu) thrive in a warm, moist environment, such as your sinuses. You should wash your hands with soap and water a few times a day. Why? It’s not that your hands are susceptible to these viruses. It’s because we can’t seem to keep our hands away from our nose and eyes! Those are the pathways to our sinuses. What goes in the mouth (except for poisons and serious toxins) is usually not as much of an issue.

So, yes, be on your guard in a reasonable fashion. However, if you do get ill, the most effective way to figure out what happened is not to look around and see where you got the germs. You need to look in the mirror and try to figure out why your immune system failed you. It probably won’t be too hard to figure out. Most illness happens when you’re not taking very good care of yourself or you’re under a lot of stress. Take responsibility for your health and your emotions. Take care of yourself, and get natural, effective healthcare as needed.

P.S.- After I published this, I thought of some personal insights I’d like to add. What prompted this particular blog post is that I was recently sick (first time in 2-3 years). My wife is prone to bronchitis due to her asthma, which is related to a weakness left behind from having pneumonia as an infant. In spite of this, she did very well this winter until a few weeks ago. She came down with bronchitis. Then a week later, I got it. Many people would say this is typical, but in our house, it’s not the norm. While I was caring for her, I had a particularly stressful night where I slept very little. The stress plus the lack of sleep weakened my immune system. Low immunity plus high exposure equals a strong chance of getting sick.

My children are all adopted. They come from very different gene pools. But one thing they all had in common is that they rarely got sick as they were growing up. I’ve heard of families where illness goes around from child to child and often starts up again at the first child, continuing the cycle. Our family was not like that at all. My kids didn’t eat great, but their diet was above average. I taught them to enjoy fruits and vegetables and limited their consumption of junk food. But most importantly, I kept them in proper alignment with chiropractic. Whenever they would start to not feel well, I would give them an adjustment. Then they would either not get sick or it would be very mild. By working to keep their immune systems strong, there was very little illness in my home.

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