Posts Tagged ‘health’

I Am Black (sort of)

October 16, 2017

You wouldn’t know it to look at me. My race is Caucasian and my skin doesn’t have much color to it. I don’t have any African-American heritage. And I’m not just black. There are a few other races mixed in there as well.

Let me explain. Thirty years ago, my wife and I adopted a newborn little girl who happened to be African-American. Her skin is the color of fine milk chocolate and her hair is as kinky as kinky can get. We fell in love with her right away. Adopting her ended nine years of failed attempts to have a child naturally. Just five months later, we adopted another baby. This one is half Hispanic. Several years later, we adopted a little boy who is part black, part Pacific Islander. So we have a variety of races in our family.

Shortly after we adopted our first little girl (who is now very tall and beautiful), we experienced a very eye-opening incident. We were walking in a mall on our way to see a movie and a young man started talking to us. I don’t know what his problem was but he started spouting all of these racial slurs against black people. I felt an interesting reaction. I was very offended. Not just for my daughter or for all people of color, but for myself. My daughter had become a part of me. So in a way, I had become part black. So when he was insulting black people, he was insulting me as well! I told him in no uncertain terms that I didn’t appreciate his remarks.

I’ve thought about it many times since. My children are a part of me, even though they aren’t related to me biologically. That makes me part white, part black, part Latino, and part Pacific Islander. But it goes further than that. I believe that everyone on this planet is my brother or sister. That’s not just mushy poetic talk. I believe we’re all children of one Heavenly Father. I believe that spiritually, as well as going way back in genealogy, we’re all related. Everyone of every race is a part of me.

I wasn’t raised to be racist. So I don’t understand racism. I realize that even those who are racist are my brothers and sisters as well. But I just don’t get it. I really thought that the people of the United States had risen above racism. I know there are still individuals who are struggling with it, but I didn’t think that organizations would still rise up against people of other races, like we’re seeing now. I don’t understand how someone would think that they’re better than someone else simply because of the color of their skin or their heritage.

Racism is based on hatred. Whether a person feels that their hatred is justified or not, it’s a very destructive emotion. It not only hurts others, including society itself, it can lead to violence and other destructive actions. And it goes deeper than that. Strong negative emotions, especially hatred, tear us up inside. They rob us of both health and happiness. As a doctor and someone who works with emotions quite a bit, I’ve seen what these emotions can do to people. So it isn’t just about “being nice”. It’s about your own health and well-being. Even if you feel a certain satisfaction in “justifiably” feeling hatred toward someone, it can still be very destructive.

As my wife always says, “everyone just needs to play nice”. Forgiveness and gratitude can bring you much greater happiness than feelings of hatred. We’re all related in some way. So try to feel more love and empathy toward others, including people of other races or ethnic origins.

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Crises and Priorities

August 1, 2016

storm-843732__180What are your priorities? In other words, what are the things that are most important to you? Although they could include sports, games, and other leisure activities, most likely your responses would include spouse, children, career, education, income, and or religion. When life is going smoothly, it can be easier to maintain your priorities, although a common problem is that people tend to get lazy and start slipping away from the things that are really important toward the things that are more fun or easier. When things aren’t going so smoothly, when times are turbulent and stresses mount, there are two common responses. For some people, it brings their priorities into sharp focus. Especially when we feel threatened, we cling to the things that are the very most important to us. For other people, they can sometimes go into panic or survival mode and completely lose sight of the priorities.

It is said that good health is one of the greatest blessings that you can have. It’s true that no matter who you are or what your station in life is, if you have poor health, your quality of life will suffer. This applies to old and young, rich and poor, even nobility. Of course, when I refer to health, I’m looking at it from a holistic standpoint. It’s not just a matter feeling good physically. It’s a state of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. When you’re young and very active, the tendency is to take your health for granted. As you get older and start to accumulate injuries, surgeries and other health problems along the way, you can go too far the other way and be obsessed with your health. Of course, what I often see in these cases is that people are not obsessed with their health, but rather their health problems. (Energy flows where the attention goes.)

The commotion in the world is increasing. There is greater stress and uncertainty. Even if you’re fortunate enough to be in a stable family and have a good job, chances are you’re feeling the stress. How will you react to crises around you? When the stresses of life, community and country are closing in around you, do you set aside priorities or do you focus on them more intensely? Hopefully your health is a priority for you. I think about how, when you’re preparing to take off in an airplane and they give you the safety instructions, they tell you that if oxygen masks are needed, to put yours on first and then help those around you. The reasoning behind this should be obvious. If you pass out, you’re unable to help yourself or anyone else around you. So in life, even when your spouse and children are your main priorities, it won’t help in the long run to sacrifice your own health in order to help your family. The more stresses you have in life, the more critical it is that you pay attention to your health.

Take care of yourself. I have a feeling that conditions in the world are going to get worse before they get better. Do whatever you can to prepare yourself mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually for whatever may lie ahead. If I can be of assistance, contact me.

Causes

January 25, 2016

Chicken vs eggChicken vs. egg – which comes first? Compared to many of life’s pressing questions, that one seems easy. As I’ve studied cause and effect over the years, and as I’ve learned about principles of happiness, success, the law of attraction, etc., I’ve had to change many of my former paradigms. For instance, I’ve always thought that if I could be “successful”, I would then be happier. Now, I’m finding that success is often the result of happiness, not the cause of it. Another one – if I could solve my most pressing problems, I would be at peace. That’s logical, isn’t it? And yet, it appears that the best condition for finding answers to your problems is to be at peace. When you can take a deep breath, have faith, believing an answer will come, and accept the situation for what it is, you allow that peace to come into your mind, which allows inspiration to flow and answers to come. It doesn’t always come right away or like a brick upside the head. It often comes, softly and subtly. That’s how inspiration works.

I’ve written before about the complexity of the mind, body and spirit. We often want so very much to find a simple solution to a complex problem. The fact is that there are often multiple causes all interwoven together. As I work with people, sometimes I get nearly miraculous results. After just a light to moderate amount of treatment, a problem that they’ve been working on correcting for many years (physical, emotional, life problem, etc.) will suddenly disappear! I believe that in many of those cases, what I’ve done is to provide the last essential piece of the puzzle (which might be a big one) that got them over that final hurdle. Most of the results I get with people range somewhere between minimal and miraculous. Where my results seem to be on the minimal side, in spite of a lot of clearing, releasing and correcting, I believe that I just haven’t done enough yet to clear that hurdle where a major difference would be felt by the patient.

In cases where I don’t seem to be making much progress, especially when I confirmed every correction through my muscle testing, did I fail? Were my efforts wasted? Think about things in your own life, where you’ve worked hard to accomplish something but did not get the desired results. Were all of your efforts wasted? Did you learn from them? Did they make you smarter, stronger, wiser? Chances are that they did. When my results have been less than spectacular, I’ve had to remind myself (and sometimes the patient) that everything we accomplished was good. We made positive changes, even when it wasn’t enough to accomplish the goal they had in mind. I was reminded of this principle in a video I saw lately about how bamboo grows. For the first 5 years, you water it, fertilize it and care for it, but you don’t see anything happening. Then suddenly, it starts growing like crazy. It can get to be 60 feet tall in a matter of weeks. In reality, it was growing all that time – under the ground. It creates a thick, complex root system so it can support the tall trunk once it starts growing above ground. If you didn’t understand this, you would most likely give up watering it and caring for it after the first year or two.

What do you do if you’re not sure your bamboo tree is doing anything, so your efforts aren’t entirely being wasted? It’s probably not going to help it grow to dig it up and check on it every few months. You’d probably kill it! So what about other things in our life? How often have we given up just short of accomplishing our goals? Or how many times have we actually been accomplishing a great deal, even when we weren’t seeing the fruits of our labors, at least not the ones pertaining to our desired goals? May I suggest the following?

  • Be at peace with the journey. Positive efforts are never wasted. Either they’re bringing you closer to your goal or you’re at least gaining wisdom and experience that will help you in other endeavors.
  • Be loving, not judgmental, toward yourself. Do your best, but then forgive yourself when you don’t accomplish things just as you would like. Then extend that same loving, forgiving attitude toward those around you, which will bring you greater peace and happiness.
  • Don’t be overly attached to every little outcome. Keep in mind that the purpose of life is to experience joy. Sometimes we don’t see the bigger picture. I’m not suggesting a lazy, “whatever” life devoid of goals or effort. I believe in working hard. However, I’ve learned that it’s important to first accept what is (as opposed to throwing inner tantrums hoping that it will magically change our current circumstances), and then with calm inspiration, work toward achieving and accepting that which we would prefer.
  • Be open to causes and effects that you may not have considered previously. Sometimes we fail to find the answers for which we seek because we have blinded ourselves to them, simply because they don’t fit into the reality that we understand or have been taught.
  • Understand that feelings of love, forgiveness, peace of heart and mind, and faith will attract more good things into your life than huge amounts of stressful work with the wrong attitude. The Emotion Code, tapping, ho’oponono, and other techniques can help to clear out the barriers to clear and peaceful thought.

I wish you joy and happiness in your life – not that everything will go smoothly without any challenges or difficulties (you’d stagnate and never reach your potential in life!), but that you will make the decision to accept joy into your life and align yourself with its principles.

Need and Abundance

August 23, 2015

(Please note: this posting has somewhat of a religious flavor to it, for which I do not apologize. I am a religious person, but this message is not about religion. If you don’t believe in God as I do, feel free to insert the word “universe” or “the universe” wherever you see the word “God”.)

lackOne of the things that has held me back for much of my life was a common, yet devastating, misconception. That is, that the things you need the most will be the things most likely to be provided to you. I believe in a kind and loving God. I believe in fairness. So I frequently operated under the delusion that if I needed something very badly and prayed for it really hard, it would be provided in ample quantity. That is how a lot of good people see it. If you really, really need something, and you’ve done what you can to deserve it, and you ask God to bless you with it, chances are you’ll get it. Right? If you don’t truly need it, he’s less likely to bless you with it. That’s fair, isn’t it?

So it would stand to reason that God would bless the poor with greater abundance and withhold some of his blessings from the rich. And yet, look around, is that what you see happening? Often times, don’t we see the poor getting poorer and the rich getting richer? That hardly seems fair, but when you consider the laws of attraction, it actually makes sense. What people don’t understand is the importance of faith, or even what faith is. The scriptures repeatedly talk about the fact that prayer without faith is not effective. God is not a conservative God with only a limited number of blessings and abundance to impart. Is God limited? Does he not have access to everything in the universe?

I believe in a God of abundance. He has limitless blessings to impart to those who are prepared to receive them. One of the hardest lessons I’ve learned in this life (one that I’m still trying to master) is that being in a place of NEED actually pushes away the abundance that I would have received if I had more faith. If you ask for something with full faith that you’ll receive it, it feels like you’ve already received it. To be in a place of need and desperation while you’re asking for something, you’re sending out the message saying that you really don’t think you’ll get it. Isn’t that the opposite of faith? If you have a need or a desire that you pray about and you have a firm mindset that it will be granted to you, then that feeling of almost having it sets aside any feelings of need or desperation, thus putting you in the right vibration and state of mind to receive it. I believe that’s the unwavering faith that the scriptures tell us is a prerequisite to obtaining blessings that we’re seeking for.

If you haven’t grown up with that kind of thinking, it can be a difficult transition to make. Even if you see the logic in it, it can be a challenge to apply it when the waters of your life become horribly turbulent and it feels like everything is falling apart. Yet with practice and focusing on correct principles, it can become a part of your life. It can feel like you’re just now planting a garden when you’re already starving to death. Too little, too late to save you from your current catastrophes. And yet, it’s necessary to start the process so that your life doesn’t continue to be a never-ending string of disasters. You may have to start small, but every step that you take in the right direction will help get you out of the hole you’ve dug for yourself.

So how do you get started? Here are some key things that you can start doing now to turn around your thinking and put you in the proper state to receive abundance and joy:

  • Exercise gratitude. Look for things to be grateful for, no matter how small. Think twice as many thoughts of gratitude as you do about things that you lack or are difficult. (Eventually you’ll want to get to the point of never thinking in terms of lack.) Gratitude is the key to joy and attracts abundance.
  • See abundance. Focus on the abundance of the universe and the multitude of blessings that are awaiting you. Avoid the temptation to focus on the lack.
  • Think in terms of what you hope to get, not how terrible things are without them. Feel the feelings of already having the things you want. Focus on the solution, not the problem.

If you work on making these things a regular part of your life and the way that you think, you will see positive changes in your life. They take practice, and sometimes they take time. Remember that you can’t harvest a garden this afternoon that you just planted this morning. Even still, it’s very important that you think in terms of having the blessings now, not in the future. Otherwise, it will stay in the future and always out of reach. Think in terms of the blessing being on its way to you right now. You may not know exactly when it will arrive, but it’s coming. So you can feel the joy and anticiabundancepation almost as if it were on your doorstep right now. There is only such a thing as now as far as the universe is concerned. We operate in a world of time though. So some patience is often required.

The purpose of life is to experience joy. Joy is not just feeling good or having fun. It comes from wisdom gained through experience, even harsh ones. It comes from gratitude – for all you’ve been given, even unpleasant experiences. It comes from a decision to be happy – as opposed to being a victim of whatever circumstances life hands you. It comes from loving and receiving love. It comes from seeing the universe as abundant and giving. Lastly, it comes from aligning your life with principles of joy and happiness.

Real Body Parts

October 17, 2014

robotWhen I was a teenager, I dislocated my patella (kneecap). It didn’t heal well. Later I had surgery on it (big mistake in this case!). That healed even worse, which led to more surgery. Each time, it had a harder time healing than the time before. Finally, we decided to leave well enough alone. Later in life, my knee degenerated, not from the initial injury but from the surgeries. My patella was scraping on my tibia. I reasoned that orthopedic surgery has come a long way in the last 30 years. Surely they know what they’re doing by now (at least better, which they do to a certain extent). So I agreed to a partial knee replacement. They basically replaced part of my patella and part of my tibia, the parts that rub together, with metal pieces lined with plastic. That was six years ago. Now my knee is starting to squeak like an old door hinge that needs WD-40. Something is breaking down or scar tissue is getting in the joint. They can’t tell without doing some arthroscopic surgery.

Why am I relating this sad tale? I’m not looking for sympathy, but there are a couple of points I want to make. First, this whole fiasco with my knee is what led me to becoming a chiropractic physician. At one point, I was planning to become a medical doctor. But there was something about medicine’s general philosophy that was bothering me, which I couldn’t quite put into words. So I was looking around at alternatives. I looked into chiropractic and became a patient. I found that there were some issues in my low back, right where the nerves go to my knees. Part of the problem is a malformation, which cannot be fixed. So it wasn’t that I had found the answer to solve all my knee problems, but what it did was to open my eyes. I finally realized what was bothering me about the approach that had been applied to my knee problems. No one had ever even asked the question of WHY my knee wasn’t healing right in the first place! No one had looked for an underlying cause. Since there was a problem interfering with my knee’s ability to heal, how can any rational person expect it to heal better with repeated surgeries??? So I became a chiropractor and have devoted my life to looking for underlying reasons for health problems. It’s also the reason I have taken on other disciplines as well, such as the Body Code and the Emotion Code.

The other point I wanted to make is about artificial body parts. As mankind started developing functional artificial body parts, such as joints, hearts, etc. and simultaneously starting to develop basic robots, imagination took flight and we started dreaming of all kinds of superhuman body parts. When I was young, I watched the TV show “The Six-Million Dollar Man”, then later “The Bionic Woman”. Both of these shows portrayed people who had greatly superior abilities due to their artificial body parts. They were faster, stronger and almost invincible. In the Robin Williams movie, “Bicentennial Man”, he plays a robot that is virtually immortal. They had to change him just to make it so he could die.

The reality is that man has not been able to come close to what God has created. It really bothers me when people talk about the human body like it’s just barely functional. So just about anything modern medicine can do to it will surely help. Holistic health practitioners recognize that the body is an absolutely wonderful thing. Our primary goal is to remove interference and let the body function as it was intended. With my knee and its artificial parts, we are unable to use those natural methods to correct complications that I’m having with the partial knee replacement. In fact, my orthopedic surgeon told me to not even exercise it since that will cause it to break down even faster. With our God-given body parts, the body is equipped to handle natural stresses on the tissues. It’s in a constant state of repair and replacement.

So don’t be in a hurry to allow technology to replace what God has given you. There are certainly times when there is no other way, when the body’s natural processes have become completely overcome and technology is the only answer. But whenever possible, seek out natural forms of healing that work with the body rather than trying to replace the body’s functions or anatomy.

Who Are You?

July 12, 2014

family2Who are you, really? Are you a unique individual? Of course you are. I believe that each of us is one-of-a-kind. There is not, nor has there ever been, anyone exactly like any one of us. Even identical twins are not entirely identical in their knowledge, their tastes, etc. And yet, we were not formed from nothing. We did not come into this life as a blank slate or an empty life form which then our parents, and later ourselves, created into the person we are today. Our DNA, our blueprint if you will, is a composite, or a unique combination, of attributes that have been passed along to us through our parents, which were passed along to them by their progenitors. This, of course, gives us our hair color, our eye color, our height, our bone structure, and so forth. But are our physical characteristics all that we inherited? I don’t think so.

Identity, that sense of who we are, is an essential characteristic for every one of us. Without a good grasp of that, we feel lost. I believe that it helps us to know how we got to where we are. We really need to take responsibility for what we make of our lives. A victim mentality is extremely non-productive and leads to stagnation and misery. So in reviewing this topic, it is not my purpose to give us excuses for not doing our best, and especially not to just give up and give in to our weaknesses. Some people say, “That’s just the way I am. Deal with it!” We all have free will and some control over what we make of ourselves. The information that I’m providing here should give you more of a sense of control over your life by helping you understand not only your physical roots, but your emotional heritage as well.

Any parent will tell you that their children did not come to them as a lump of clay that they could just mold into whatever they wanted them to become. Every child, as soon as they’re able to walk and talk and express themselves freely, demonstrates a unique personality that cannot be entirely attributed to the parent’s upbringing. Where does this come from? If the child seems to arrive on the scene with some pre-existing attributes, it should be clear that not every aspect of their personality came directly from their parents. The following are some possibilities for sources of our personality traits.

1 – Transgenerational epigenetic inheritance. That’s a fancy term for inheriting personality traits, emotions and perhaps even some memories from your parents and ancestors via your DNA. Epigenetics is an exciting branch of science that maintains that our genetic make-up can be altered by our diet, emotions, etc. I believe this is true. I don’t think our genetic blueprint is written in unalterable stone as once thought. So this term refers to imprinting onto genes, which then is passed along to the progeny. Could our parents’ knowledge and understanding of a particular subject make it easier for us to learn that subject? Possibly. I’ve read a couple of studies with mice that indicate that could be the case.

All of my children are adopted. We got both of my daughters straight from the hospital. Neither of them spent more than a day or two with their birth mothers. And yet both of them grew up to have some problems and weaknesses that were very similar to their respective birth mothers, even though they were in direct conflict to how we raised them. It’s the old “nature vs. nurture” question. To a certain extent, they were who they were, no matter how we raised them.

2 – Inherited emotions. I’ve talked about the Emotion Code in previous postings. That technique, along with other forms of energy work, tells us that trapped emotions can be passed along from parent to child at the point of conception. Trapped emotions are bits of energy that are acquired when an emotion has not been fully processed and released. This energy can be passed along with the sperm and the egg. In my work, I often find and release inherited trapped emotions. Trapped emotions can affect us both physically and emotionally. Since each emotion has its own frequency or vibration, they can affect how we feel, which in turn can affect our actions. So to a certain extent, inherited trapped emotions can help to shape who we are.

3 – Previous life. I believe that we lived as spirit children of God before coming into this mortal existence. Whether you believe in a pre-existence or reincarnation, it’s clear to many of us that we experienced a great deal before we came into our current physical state. Although we have no clear memory of this prior existence, it leaves its mark on us. I do sometimes find and release emotions that were trapped before this earth life, which were carried by our spirit into our physical body.

4 – Collective consciousness. There is a wide range of opinions and definitions of this. Some look at it simply as the norms and attitudes of society and how we are affected by them. This is certainly a factor in who we are. Some people see it as an actual shared consciousness; as if we’re not really individuals, especially after we die. That seems a little extreme to me. However, I do believe that “no man is an island”. I believe we’re all connected. I believe your thoughts and actions, in some small inexplicable way, have some affect on me and vice versa. I can’t prove it, I can’t really explain it and yet I sense that it’s true. I put it out there as food for thought. Like it or not, we are a part of each other. My oldest daughter is African-American, whereas I am Caucasian. As my adopted daughter, she has become part of me. Therefore, I am partly African-American. One time when she was a baby, we heard a young man making racial slurs against black people. My daughter wasn’t present and he didn’t know we had an African-American daughter. I felt great offense at his remarks. What was interesting though is that I didn’t feel defensive for my daughter’s sake, but I felt that he was offending me personally. As I thought about it later in light of how we’re all part of the human family of earth and how we’re all connected in some way, I realized that I’m also part Oriental, part Hispanic, and part everything else. You are a part of me and I am a part of you.

So as we consider our identity – who we really are inside, we realize that it is a conglomeration of our upbringing, our choices, what has happened to us, our relationships, what we inherited and picked up from others, and even choices we may have made before this life. Yet I still believe that we are not victims of all that, even though some of it may represent major hurdles in our life. We have the power to choose. Our thoughts, actions and emotions that we are experiencing right now will help to shape not only our life, but that of our descendents and those who are close to us.

The Gray Side of Health

June 20, 2014

stethoscope2When you’re young and idealistic, many things in life can seem pretty black and white. But as one gets older, you learn that there are so many nuances and variations that in some cases, issues become muddled gray. After being in practice for 30 years, you would think I would be very good at predicting outcomes and telling people how much treatment they will need and so forth. However, just the opposite has happened. I can tell people what is somewhat typical, but every person, every case is so unique that it’s impossible to predict much of anything accurately. One thing I love about doing energy work is that we’re able to do muscle testing on people to find out more specifically what they need.

Health itself is not black and white. I think it’s strange that many people think of themselves as either healthy or sick. If you’re not sick, you must be healthy, and vice versa. To me, health is a continuum. No one is 100% sick (we call that dead). No one is 100% healthy without a single flaw. So we’re always somewhere in between. There’s a balance between our tolerance level and the level of our health. Any time that the level of any health problem exceeds the level of our tolerance for it, we experience symptoms. If the health problem gets worse, or if the tolerance level drops (which can be due to fatigue, stress, etc.), we become more aware of the health problem. While it is true that there are some rare deadly diseases for which our immune systems are not prepared, for the most part, illness doesn’t just suddenly occur because of exposure to bacteria or viruses. A truly healthy person won’t suddenly become ill because someone sneezed in their vicinity or they touched some horribly infected doorknob. I always say that when you get sick, you shouldn’t look around to see who shared their germs with you. You look in the mirror and ask yourself why your immune system was weakened. Generally you don’t have to strain your brain coming up with an answer for that one.

Allergies are another area where we see a lot of gray. Many people, if they don’t have an allergy that makes them break out in hives or have their throat close up, think they don’t have allergies. I see an allergy as an incompatibility between the energy of the body and the energy of a substance. That incompatibility may be extreme or it may be minor or anything in between. For some people, it may be a food that they eat every day, which is weakening them, making them tired and more prone to illness, aches and pains. NAET (Nambudripad Allergy Elimination Technique) is a tool we use to help find and treat hidden allergies.

When we’re doing energy work with people and using muscle testing, we can’t really ask about named diseases. The body (or subconscious mind) doesn’t think that way. It’s all about imbalances and interferences. Lab values and other types of measurements that are commonly used in healthcare can be very useful, but we have to remember that the numbers are simply values that we’ve agreed upon – a way for us to draw the line between needing medical treatment for a problem and not needing medical treatment. What’s just right for one person may not be the perfect value for another person. Besides, we need to remember that it’s a continuum. If a value is not where it should be, it doesn’t matter whether it’s crossed an imaginary line or not. It should be addressed (naturally if possible).

Some people, when they get what they feel is a definitive diagnosis, are very relieved. They feel that it’s not so much of a mystery now, which gives them more of a feeling of control. I don’t want to rob anyone of the peace that they get from that, but often it’s just an illusion. The word diagnosis means to know what’s going on inside the body (dia=through, gnosis= to know). In many cases, it’s just a best guess. Even with lab tests, positive exam findings and classic symptomatology, how can we truly KNOW for certain what’s happening in the body? Muscle testing, done properly, can also be effective at getting to the root of the problem.

Then there are those for whom a diagnosis is their downfall, especially when it comes out of the blue or destroys what little hope they were clinging to. I heard of a lady who got her test results back, and based on those results, the doctor gave her six months to live. Sure enough, six months later, she died. Later, they found out that the test results had gotten mixed up with someone else’s. She was fine. She simply died because she believed she would. I can’t say for sure if that’s an urban myth or a real event, but I’ve seen the principle in action many times. Some people get a diagnosis and they fully accept it as part of who they are. They play the part to the max and become far more of a victim of the disease (whether they actually have it or not) than they need to be. My father died of cancer. He was given the diagnosis of malignant brain cancer and was told that he would die in less than a year, which he did. I’ve often wondered if there was a little bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy there. Would he have lived longer if the doctors would have told him that there was a strong chance of pulling through and beating the cancer? I guess we’ll never know in this case.

As much as we’d always like definite, well-understood answers to our health issues, there aren’t many cases when we have such absolute information. I’ve written previously about how complex our bodies are. It’s this complexity that makes it difficult to pin down exact answers. There is always hope however. We do have a lot of good information and we can use muscle testing to find out what imbalances people have to help them overcome health problems. I think the important thing to remember is that the body knows what it’s doing most of the time. It’s smarter than any doctor. Generally the best thing we can do is to remove interferences, give it the nutrients, exercise and so forth that it needs, then get out of the way and let it express good health and happiness.

Thinking Like A Winner

April 5, 2014

Mental PowerSuccess, in any area of your life, is 90% mental/emotional and 10% physical action. That’s my experience at least. In a football game, I think that the pep talk beforehand can be as important as the practices and scrimmages. The game must first be won in the head before it can be won on the field. Can you imagine a boxer being interviewed before a big bout saying, “I really think I’m going to get creamed but by golly, I’m going to go in and do my best”? I had a young rugby player in my office the other day who was saying that they were going up against a team that they had no real chance of beating. I told him that if he thought that way, they’ve already lost the game. I loved to watch the skiers in the winter Olympics before making their run. You’d see them going through the course perfectly in their head. They weren’t thinking about falling or missing turns. They were seeing themselves doing the best run of their life. In this instance, I’m referring to the champions. Those who gave into fear and doubt didn’t do so well.

It’s much easier to see these examples in the sports world. But most of us aren’t professional athletes. Our games are much more subtle and complex. The principles can be applied in a very similar manner however. Occasionally, we’re surprised by outcomes. We lose when we think we’re going to win, or we just happen to win when we were sure we would lose. For the most part though, things turn out pretty close to what we expect. If we don’t win the game first in our own mind, then it’s far less likely that we’ll win in real life.

How do you get to that point? Maybe you’re good at visualizing successful outcomes. However, if you’re like many people who have experienced plenty of failure, especially in a certain area of your life that you’re trying to turn around (finances, relationships, health, etc.), clearly picturing yourself winning where you have previously failed can be extremely difficult. In many cases, it’s very difficult to do it without help. There are a number of techniques that professionals use to help you change your mindset, such as EFT (tapping), Emotion Code, RPT (reference point therapy), EVOX, hypnosis, etc.

There are also coaches that can help you. In my profession as a chiropractor, I’ve worked with a number of practice management consultants. The problem is that with some people who are really successful in their profession, they don’t really have a clear understanding of how they got there. It may have come very naturally to them and so they never had to consciously work to achieve success. I don’t mean that they didn’t work hard to get where they are. Most of them did. But then they get the idea that if they can teach others to walk like them, talk like them, and act like them, other people should have no trouble achieving the same level of success that they did. The problem with that is that, as I pointed out earlier, success is 90% mental/emotional. So even if you are able to learn to walk and talk and act like the people you admire, chances are you will not achieve the type of success that they have until you learn to THINK like they do. Generally speaking, you don’t get to where you can think like a winner by winning. Instead it’s the other way around. You become a winner because you learn to think like a winner. There are many self-help books out there that can help you with this. I especially like the ones by Leslie Householder. It’s also very helpful to rid yourself of some of your old emotional baggage by using one or more of the techniques mentioned in the last paragraph.

Put yourself in a vibration to receive success (the good things that you want to attain or achieve in your life that will help to bring you joy). Focus on your goals, not on your trials. Remove as many roadblocks as possible. Learn from those who have attained success, especially those who struggled to get to that point. Apply these principles to every area of your life, including your physical, mental and emotional health. Live your life with joy.

It’s All In Your Head!

March 28, 2014

ImageHave you ever been told, “it’s all in your mind”, when you’ve had a symptom or health concern? Many people have, even by their own doctors. How did it make you feel? Did you feel invalidated? Did you take their word for it and simply dismiss it (trying to ignore it) or did you keep looking for the cause of your problem? What does it even mean?

I’ve always had a keen interest in psychology, but when it came time to finalize my career plans, I steered more toward physical healthcare (chiropractic). In the last several years though, it seems like I’m coming more full circle – not abandoning chiropractic, but looking more at how the mind (especially the subconscious) affects the body. In some of my presentations that I do, I talk about the difference between hypochondria and psychosomatic disorders. I’ve heard some people use those terms almost interchangeably, but they’re actually very different.

A hypochondriac is one who thinks he’s sick, but he isn’t really. Generally we use that term to describe someone who is obsessed with their health and is always acting under the belief that they have some horrible malady. I believe that many of us are a bit hypochondriac at times. We read about the symptoms of some deadly disease and start to think that we’re about to kick the bucket any moment. Or we might be around people who are describing various symptoms and we start feeling them too.

Psychosomatic illness, on the other hand, is very real illness. This is where the problem starts in the mind, but then manifests in the body. “Psycho” refers to the mind. “Soma” refers to the body. So “psychosomatic” literally means mind to body. I believe that this is far more common than most people think. In fact, I would say that most, if not all, disease processes have some degree of psychosomatic component. Whether it’s stress or worry or just negativity, our bodies can become weakened and more vulnerable as a result of our thoughts. I’ve noticed that people who tend to focus on illness are more likely to attract illness, whereas people who focus on health stay much healthier.

Our mood, our current emotions, have a definite impact on the state of our health. But what about emotions that are buried in our subconscious that we may not be aware of? As an Emotion Code practitioner, I work a great deal with “trapped” emotions. These buried emotions carry negative energy that can manifest themselves in all sorts of ways in the body, from achiness to actual disease processes. We have been able to help many people with a variety of health problems by clearing trapped emotions (usually done in combination with chiropractic and other energy balancing).

So the next time someone says to you, “it’s all in your head”, you can say, “that may be, or at least where part of it began, but it doesn’t make the problem any less real.” If there are psychological problems that need to be addressed, especially if you only imagine a problem, see a qualified psychologist or psychiatrist. However, if you really do have an ache or a pain or even the beginnings of a disease process, consider the role of emotions in maintaining your health.

The Power of Intention

February 7, 2014

The Power of IntentionWhen my children were young and starting to do chores around the house, we struggled with getting them to do a good job at their tasks. They would go through the motions of washing the dishes, but the dishes didn’t really get clean. They would vacuum the carpet, but not really care if the vacuum was clogged up and not picking anything up. As I think back on it now, they were doing exactly what they thought they were supposed to be doing. Their purpose was to wash the dishes or vacuum the carpet or whatever. Once they went through those motions, their purpose was accomplished and it was time to play.

How often in our lives are we just “going through the motions”? Of course, I didn’t just want my children to go through the motions of doing their chores. I wanted the dishes clean, the carpet clean, etc. That’s why I assigned them those tasks. But it took me a while to get them to understand that concept. In my own life, there have been times when I was just going through the motions, even though I didn’t always realize it. When I was young, I was taught (or so I understood) that if you be good and work hard, you’ll be rewarded with success. Later, I found that doesn’t always work. There were times when I was working like crazy and being a good boy and saying my prayers and so forth, but still I couldn’t get ahead. I realized that there was more to it. So I started listening to CD’s and reading books by people who were experts on how to get ahead in life. Many of them made it sound so easy. I tried implementing their suggestions, but still my progress was very slow and I would finally give up in frustration. I just wasn’t getting it.

Over the past few years, things have been turning around for me. I’ve picked up again on motivational speakers and authors and I think I’m finally starting to “get it”. It has a lot to do with faith. However, I prefer the word “intention”. I see intention as the purpose behind why you do what you do. Having a strong intention doesn’t guarantee success, but it makes it a whole lot more likely and will take you further than having a weak (or no) intention. Have you ever seen a football team come out onto the field where it just didn’t seem like they were there with the intention to win the game? It can be very frustrating when you’re the fan rooting for them to win. In any endeavor, if you don’t have a strong intention to win, the chances of winning are greatly diminished. Having an intention to “do your best” or “not lose” is NOT the same as fully intending to win.

In writing about faith in the past, I’ve referred to one of my favorite examples in the New Testament where the woman was cured of an issue of blood simply by touching the hem of the Savior’s clothes. Jesus felt virtue coming out of him, which in modern terms of energy work, we could say that he felt an energy shift. When he found the woman and determined what had happened, he told her that her faith had made her whole (healthy). I really don’t think Jesus was telling a little white lie to show humility. I believe he always told the truth. So it was the faith of this woman and not really an act on his part. Imagine if a friend of this woman told her to go and touch Jesus’ clothes and she would be healed, but she reacted with an attitude of, “OK, I’ll do it, but I don’t think it will work”. Do you think that she would have been healed? In this case, I would definitely say no.

In the healthcare work that I do, I’ve often wondered why two doctors would do apparently the same thing, but get very different results. There are many variables, such as the skill of the doctor, the condition of the patient, etc. However, I think there’s more to it. In the 30 years that I’ve been in practice, I’ve seen differences in myself as well as other practitioners, things that couldn’t always be explained. Now I see that a lot of it has to do with intention. One chiropractor can give someone an adjustment without much expectation, another can do it with the intention of helping the patient feel a little better, while yet another can do the same adjustment with the intention of seeing a miracle take place in the life of the patient. Will that last doctor always see a miracle with every adjustment he performs? Probably not, but he or she will see a lot more miracles in their practice than the doctor who never expects miracles or who is not treating with the intention of seeing miracles.

The same is true in every profession or endeavor. There will always be setbacks, but if your intention is to succeed, almost nothing can stop you. Whether you’re sweeping floors, bussing tables, or doing brain surgery, if your intention is to succeed, you’ll not only do a better job but receive greater satisfaction as well. Remember, wanting and needing is NOT the same thing as intending. I spent many years wanting and needing and working myself to a frazzle, but just getting more and more frustrated with not being able to provide sufficiently for my family. Even being deserving isn’t enough. When you’re not raised with a strong intention to succeed, when you’re just used to trying hard and doing your best (which isn’t wrong, but often is not enough to put you over the top), it can be tricky to learn. People who have found success often make it sound easy – “if I can do it, anyone can do it”. However, changing patterns of thinking that you’ve known all your life is seldom easy. I’ve been helped by people like Leslie Householder (author of The Jackrabbit Factor), Wayne Dyer, Russ Rosen, Angela Barrus and others, including my office partner, Joe Kepo’o, to help turn my thinking around. I still have to work at it so as not to drop back into old patterns of thinking, but to the extent that I’ve managed to have more purpose in my life and career, to the extent that I’ve been able to put more intention into what I do, I’ve been able to see far more success, not just monetarily but in helping people to have more miracles in their lives. THAT, my friends, is my true purpose in life. It’s why I do what I do – to change lives for the better through helping people heal both physically and emotionally. Life is wonderful.