Posts Tagged ‘joy’

Living Joyfully without Complacency

April 7, 2015

complacencyThere’s a very fine, almost imperceptible line between being happy with what you have and being too complacent to strive for more, between being grateful for the blessings you’ve been given (without griping about what you don’t have) and being satisfied with where you are now with no goals for improving your situation. Yet the difference that it brings to your life from being in one state vs. the other is huge. It’s a matter of happiness and joy vs. misery and bitterness. It’s a matter of progression vs. stagnation, and attracting good into your life vs. not attracting good things into your life.

As I’ve studied principles of success and happiness, I’ve come to realize that gratitude is one of the biggest keys to happiness in life. It’s also an important factor in the law of attraction, in terms of attracting good things. It can be confusing at first. It seems almost contradictory to be told that if you want more of something, you should first be grateful for what you have. In order to progress, I’ve always thought that you first needed to be dissatisfied with your current circumstances. Dissatisfaction and gratitude don’t seem to go together. If you’re happy where you’re at, you might as well stay where you’re at. Right? If you’re miserable in your current situation, if you feel like you’ve gotten a raw deal, if life stinks, then you’re primed and ready for a change in a better direction. Right? The misery will motivate you to get off your tuckus and make a better life for yourself. Right? That’s pretty much what I’ve always been taught. However, that’s where I was getting messed up. I think it’s affecting a lot of other people also.

As I look back on my own life and witnessing the situations of others, I can’t recall ever seeing a situation where griping and complaining and feelings of bitterness actually led to an improvement in someone’s life. Generally, it assured that they would NOT progress. Why is that? Because they were not putting themselves into a state (frequency, vibration, attitude) in which they could attract and receive improved circumstances. Although they were wanting life to improve, sometimes desperately, their thoughts, words and emotions were in opposition to the improvement that they were wanting. (I know – I’ve been there.)

So, if you’re not griping and complaining about how life is, and you should be grateful for what you already have, isn’t that the same thing as complacency? Not necessarily. Perhaps you do have all that you desire, but the important thing here is the attitude. If you’re feeling complacent, is it due to the fact that you’ve achieved all you have ever wanted and now you just want to coast a bit, or is it because you’ve given up, because you don’t believe that your goals are reachable or you’re incapable of reaching them? Frankly, I believe that there are very few people who are both successful and complacent and are not on a downward slide. Complacency leads to laziness, which leads to failure.

How does one strike a proper balance between being happy and grateful for one’s current circumstances and healthy ambition? I try to look at the bigger picture. What I have encompasses what I’ve received in the past, what I am now receiving and what I will receive in the future (blessings with my name on them that are on their way, some of them years out). Every day, I express gratitude for all of these blessings. I am grateful for what I have achieved and what I will yet achieve. I strive to avoid dissatisfaction with my current situation. Rather, I appreciate the path that I’m on. There is great striving to accomplish more and greater things and to attract greater abundance in all aspects of my life. I know that I have to do my part to prepare for and receive the higher level of blessings that are intended for me.

Happiness cannot depend on some future outcome. Happiness is a choice. Choose it today and enjoy the journey!

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The POWER of Emotion

May 12, 2014

Joy

When I was a young teenager, I really enjoyed watching the original Star Trek TV show. (I guess I was a bit of a nerd, since I enjoyed science fiction more than sports.) My “hero” on that show was Mr. Spock. I loved how he was all about logic. I saw emotions as a weakness. Now that I’m much older and slightly wiser, I realize that not only can we not escape our emotions, but that they can be used to improve our life in very specific, purposeful ways.

Of course, emotion is what gives life color and meaning. How bland life would be without it! Love, loyalty, compassion, devotion and many other positive emotions drive us to help one another, connect with one another and do many great and wonderful things. Passion drives us to action. In fact, I often say that logic is the excuse we use to justify our decisions, which are based on emotion. Everything in our life is driven by emotions. Even when we do something that seems to be purely logical, there’s always some underlying emotional objective that we’re seeking to attain.

You already know that emotion is the spice and color of life. My purpose here is to discuss the actual power or force that accompanies emotions. If you’re into energy work, especially if you’re familiar with the Emotion Code or other forms of emotion clearing, or if you are into the power of positive thinking, you may already be familiar with these principles. Emotions are energy. They are a powerful force. Thoughts have power, but without emotion, they often lack the punch to make much difference in our life. Sustained or repeated thoughts, accompanied by strong emotions, will results in significant changes in our life, or they will keep us where we’re at, in spite of our efforts to make desired changes.

The purpose of this message is not to pass judgment on our educational system. It is riddled with flaws, but it also has many wonderful benefits. Our teachers and our schools work hard to instill knowledge into our brains that will hopefully help us in our life and careers. Occasionally, there will be an exceptional teacher that will help students learn how to really think – to use their brains more effectively – how to retain information, how to think more critically and logically, etc. But I’ve yet to find a school teacher who really teaches students how and why to discipline both their thoughts and emotions in order to attract wonderful things into their lives. Most people don’t even understand that their thoughts and emotions have a significant effect on what happens in their life. So there is very little effort to discipline our thoughts.

Whatever you experience strong emotions about, you empower. Your thoughts are like the steering wheel that guides you through your life. Your emotions, on the other hand, are like the  accelerator that moves you. You give power to whatever you think about with strong emotion. Are you worried and depressed about your bills and debts? What are these emotions empowering? Bills and debts, attracting more of the same into your life. Some people even go so far as to make sure they don’t get excited about their hopes and dreams because if they don’t come to pass as they’d like, they don’t want to be disappointed. Their logic is that the higher they build up their hopes, the harder they come crashing down when things don’t turn out like they’d like. While this logic is somewhat sound, by thinking this way, they practically assure failure and disappointment. You have to ask yourself which is preferable – to increase your chances of success but risk a greater fall if you fail, or have a much lower chance of success, but have less of a fall when you fail? Only you can answer that for yourself. Some people like to take chances and some people are very risk-averse. I’m a pretty conservative guy. I’m not a gambler. But I want success in life. I don’t want to live a nowhere life – never failing, never succeeding, never accomplishing much of anything because I was afraid to fail. As the poet put it, “’Tis better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all” (Alfred Lord Tennyson). Or put another way, “it’s better to have tried and failed, than to never have had the courage to even try”.

What are you empowering in your life through thoughts turbocharged with emotion? What are you holding back on because you’re afraid to infuse the thoughts with emotion? Dream big and get excited about it. Where there are challenges in your life, do your best to stay calm about them. Shrug your shoulders and say, “it is what it is, and I’ll just deal with it the best I can”. I know that isn’t always easy. Even I still succumb to getting down about my problems from time to time, but I’m getting better at it. I’ve come to better understand these principles through the writings of a number of authors, especially Leslie Householder. One thing that can help strengthen your ability to control your thoughts and feelings is to rid yourself of excess emotional baggage through the use of the Emotion Code and other clearing techniques. Hypnotherapy and visualization techniques can also be very helpful.

Remember that the purpose of life is to have joy. I wish you success and happiness in your journey.

Thinking Like A Winner

April 5, 2014

Mental PowerSuccess, in any area of your life, is 90% mental/emotional and 10% physical action. That’s my experience at least. In a football game, I think that the pep talk beforehand can be as important as the practices and scrimmages. The game must first be won in the head before it can be won on the field. Can you imagine a boxer being interviewed before a big bout saying, “I really think I’m going to get creamed but by golly, I’m going to go in and do my best”? I had a young rugby player in my office the other day who was saying that they were going up against a team that they had no real chance of beating. I told him that if he thought that way, they’ve already lost the game. I loved to watch the skiers in the winter Olympics before making their run. You’d see them going through the course perfectly in their head. They weren’t thinking about falling or missing turns. They were seeing themselves doing the best run of their life. In this instance, I’m referring to the champions. Those who gave into fear and doubt didn’t do so well.

It’s much easier to see these examples in the sports world. But most of us aren’t professional athletes. Our games are much more subtle and complex. The principles can be applied in a very similar manner however. Occasionally, we’re surprised by outcomes. We lose when we think we’re going to win, or we just happen to win when we were sure we would lose. For the most part though, things turn out pretty close to what we expect. If we don’t win the game first in our own mind, then it’s far less likely that we’ll win in real life.

How do you get to that point? Maybe you’re good at visualizing successful outcomes. However, if you’re like many people who have experienced plenty of failure, especially in a certain area of your life that you’re trying to turn around (finances, relationships, health, etc.), clearly picturing yourself winning where you have previously failed can be extremely difficult. In many cases, it’s very difficult to do it without help. There are a number of techniques that professionals use to help you change your mindset, such as EFT (tapping), Emotion Code, RPT (reference point therapy), EVOX, hypnosis, etc.

There are also coaches that can help you. In my profession as a chiropractor, I’ve worked with a number of practice management consultants. The problem is that with some people who are really successful in their profession, they don’t really have a clear understanding of how they got there. It may have come very naturally to them and so they never had to consciously work to achieve success. I don’t mean that they didn’t work hard to get where they are. Most of them did. But then they get the idea that if they can teach others to walk like them, talk like them, and act like them, other people should have no trouble achieving the same level of success that they did. The problem with that is that, as I pointed out earlier, success is 90% mental/emotional. So even if you are able to learn to walk and talk and act like the people you admire, chances are you will not achieve the type of success that they have until you learn to THINK like they do. Generally speaking, you don’t get to where you can think like a winner by winning. Instead it’s the other way around. You become a winner because you learn to think like a winner. There are many self-help books out there that can help you with this. I especially like the ones by Leslie Householder. It’s also very helpful to rid yourself of some of your old emotional baggage by using one or more of the techniques mentioned in the last paragraph.

Put yourself in a vibration to receive success (the good things that you want to attain or achieve in your life that will help to bring you joy). Focus on your goals, not on your trials. Remove as many roadblocks as possible. Learn from those who have attained success, especially those who struggled to get to that point. Apply these principles to every area of your life, including your physical, mental and emotional health. Live your life with joy.

Perceptions of Reality

December 19, 2013

Flying NeoI really love the Matrix movies (PG-13 version). One of my favorite parts is the last part of the first movie. Neo, the main character, played by Keanu Reeves, gets shot and killed while in the “matrix”, which is a virtual reality (which pretty much everyone thinks IS reality). Earlier in the movie, he’s told that if you get killed in the matrix, you really die. Essentially, they explained that if the mind, which is buying into the reality of the matrix, “dies” or believes that you’ve been killed, your body will not survive. However, Neo manages to rise above the illusion of the matrix. He comes back to life and sees the matrix as it really is, which is just computer code. He was able to defeat the bad guys, which were nothing more than computer code also. Then at the very end, he flies through the sky like Superman, because he is able to use the matrix to his advantage. It’s not that he gained control of the matrix at this point, but that he stopped being a victim of it.

Movies like this can almost question your understanding of and grip on reality. Is reality simply a perception or is it a truth that is independent of what we believe about it? I believe the answer is yes, or in other words, both are true. Truth does exist. There is a “reality” that is independent of anyone’s beliefs. I believe that God created man, not vice versa. However, within the realm of truth, there is a universe of possibilities. Our thoughts, actions and emotions are very real energies, which impact the universe, especially as it applies to our own experience. Are you a victim of your reality? To a certain extent (to a large extent, according to some people), you created that reality. You then become a victim of yourself. I’m not saying that you have consciously chosen to have the life that you do (hopefully you did), but you certainly had an impact on it.

You’re probably familiar with the story of the blind men and the elephant. Several blind men encountered an elephant for the first time. Each one came into contact with a different part of the elephant. So each one described the elephant differently. Although their descriptions varied widely, each one was correct since it described a specific part of the elephant. Obviously the blind men didn’t create the elephant. Life/reality is like the elephant. It’s bigger than any one of us. Our perceptions of the universe can vary widely depending on our point of view. Let’s take the story of the elephant a step further. What if the blind men changed positions to feel a different part of the elephant? Of course, their understanding of the elephant would have changed significantly. If there was an emotional response to the initial understanding of the elephant, that reaction would have changed. If we approach life from a different angle, our perception of it will change. Thus our reality will change. To the extent that we control our reality, having a greater understanding empowers us further and helps us see new possibilities.

I’ve heard it said that no two people read the same book or watch the same movie. They see it from different perspectives. So the meaning will be different for each person. To a certain extent, life is what you see it as. The greatest secret to happiness that I’ve found is gratitude. There are always things in your life to be grateful for. It can always get worse. If you’re going through a really difficult time, I don’t mean to seem callous or uncaring. Find whatever is good in your life and express gratitude for it. Not only will your perception of reality shift, but your life will start to improve as well. You can also use the Emotion Code or other means to clear some of the emotional baggage of the past. Going forward though, look for and find the joy!