Posts Tagged ‘success’

Thinking Like A Winner

April 5, 2014

Mental PowerSuccess, in any area of your life, is 90% mental/emotional and 10% physical action. That’s my experience at least. In a football game, I think that the pep talk beforehand can be as important as the practices and scrimmages. The game must first be won in the head before it can be won on the field. Can you imagine a boxer being interviewed before a big bout saying, “I really think I’m going to get creamed but by golly, I’m going to go in and do my best”? I had a young rugby player in my office the other day who was saying that they were going up against a team that they had no real chance of beating. I told him that if he thought that way, they’ve already lost the game. I loved to watch the skiers in the winter Olympics before making their run. You’d see them going through the course perfectly in their head. They weren’t thinking about falling or missing turns. They were seeing themselves doing the best run of their life. In this instance, I’m referring to the champions. Those who gave into fear and doubt didn’t do so well.

It’s much easier to see these examples in the sports world. But most of us aren’t professional athletes. Our games are much more subtle and complex. The principles can be applied in a very similar manner however. Occasionally, we’re surprised by outcomes. We lose when we think we’re going to win, or we just happen to win when we were sure we would lose. For the most part though, things turn out pretty close to what we expect. If we don’t win the game first in our own mind, then it’s far less likely that we’ll win in real life.

How do you get to that point? Maybe you’re good at visualizing successful outcomes. However, if you’re like many people who have experienced plenty of failure, especially in a certain area of your life that you’re trying to turn around (finances, relationships, health, etc.), clearly picturing yourself winning where you have previously failed can be extremely difficult. In many cases, it’s very difficult to do it without help. There are a number of techniques that professionals use to help you change your mindset, such as EFT (tapping), Emotion Code, RPT (reference point therapy), EVOX, hypnosis, etc.

There are also coaches that can help you. In my profession as a chiropractor, I’ve worked with a number of practice management consultants. The problem is that with some people who are really successful in their profession, they don’t really have a clear understanding of how they got there. It may have come very naturally to them and so they never had to consciously work to achieve success. I don’t mean that they didn’t work hard to get where they are. Most of them did. But then they get the idea that if they can teach others to walk like them, talk like them, and act like them, other people should have no trouble achieving the same level of success that they did. The problem with that is that, as I pointed out earlier, success is 90% mental/emotional. So even if you are able to learn to walk and talk and act like the people you admire, chances are you will not achieve the type of success that they have until you learn to THINK like they do. Generally speaking, you don’t get to where you can think like a winner by winning. Instead it’s the other way around. You become a winner because you learn to think like a winner. There are many self-help books out there that can help you with this. I especially like the ones by Leslie Householder. It’s also very helpful to rid yourself of some of your old emotional baggage by using one or more of the techniques mentioned in the last paragraph.

Put yourself in a vibration to receive success (the good things that you want to attain or achieve in your life that will help to bring you joy). Focus on your goals, not on your trials. Remove as many roadblocks as possible. Learn from those who have attained success, especially those who struggled to get to that point. Apply these principles to every area of your life, including your physical, mental and emotional health. Live your life with joy.

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Success and the Universe

March 3, 2014

UniverseThe universe hates lies, inconsistencies, and vacuums. So does your subconscious mind. I’ve found a lot of similarities between increasing prosperity and losing weight. There’s been a lot written about the “power of positive thinking” when it comes to prosperity, but not as much for losing weight. There are diets and weight loss programs galore. The principles that I will discuss here apply not only to weight loss and prosperity, but virtually every aspect of life.

When you say “I am fat” or “I am poor”, you are reaffirming to the universe that that is your truth, which it obediently follows. When you say “I need to lose weight” or “I desperately need more money”, what is the message that you’re putting out there? The universe doesn’t want to make you into a liar. If you lost weight, there would be an inconsistency with your statement and belief that you need to lose weight, which it doesn’t want to create. Of course, once you lose the weight, you would no longer say that (hopefully), so the inconsistency would go away. The problem is in getting there. Don’t ask the universe to create inconsistency, which it abhors. The same thing goes for prosperity. If you NEED money, how can the universe give you money without making you a liar?

If you’re logical and analytical like me, you immediately see a problem. If you’re fat and say that you’re thin, then you are already a liar. Plus there’s the fear that if you say you’re thin, you’ll stop working on losing weight and just go hog-wild with food, which will make you even fatter. So it is with money. Saying that you’re wealthy when you’re really poor is not speaking truthfully. Plus there’s a possibility that you’ll start spending money you don’t have simply because you’re acting the part of a wealthy person.

First of all, (someone correct me if I’m wrong) you need to maintain some thread of connection with “reality”. Your logical mind knows that the money isn’t actually in your bank account YET. I don’t recommend that you go out and try to buy a yacht when you only have $13 in the bank simply because you’re convincing the universe and yourself that you’re already wealthy. As positive thinking gurus (Leslie Householder and others) will tell you, it’s not that you have to convince yourself that the money is already in your account and available to spend, which would not be true. However, it is a truth that once you’ve declared prosperity for yourself, in a sense, that wealth, which is “out there”, is on its way to you and can properly considered yours. So if I fully believe that I am a millionaire and declare it to the universe without doubt or hesitation, yet only have $13 in the bank currently, am I a liar? No. I certainly can’t spend it yet, but I am whoever I say I am and I can be assured that it’s on its way to me. It may take a month, a year, or 10 years, but it doesn’t make it any less mine. What if I die before it gets here? Am I a fool for spending my remaining years believing in something that never came? Or would I be more a fool for constantly reaffirming to the universe that I’m broke and therefore ensuring that I would remain broke?

Secondly, rich, poor, healthy, unhealthy, fat, thin… it’s all relative. The universe doesn’t make those kinds of distinctions. These are relative terms that only make sense in our own minds. If you say you’re poor, the universe will do its best to keep you poor, as you see it. If you drive through a neighborhood of mansions with Rolls Royce’s and Mercedes’ in every driveway, you might feel like you’re poor. Yet, without changing your current financial situation, you can look at someone who truly is in abject poverty, who lives in a dirt hut with no conveniences whatsoever, where they’re lucky to get a small bowl of rice once a day, and suddenly you feel wealthy. So which is it? Are you rich or are you poor? You can see the absurdity of putting a fixed label on yourself either way. (Please keep in mind that I’m speaking to the masses in the middle. I don’t expect someone who truly is in abject poverty to somehow think like a millionaire. Even then, these principles can be used in some small way in any situation to improve one’s situation.)

The same principle applies to your weight. If you’re 80 pounds over the weight you think you should be at and you start hanging around people who are 200-300 pounds overweight, you’re less likely to feel horribly fat. On the other hand, if you spend time with people who don’t have an ounce of extra fat, you’re probably going to feel like you’re tremendously overweight. Which is it? Are you fat or thin? It’s all relative. If you think “fat”, you attract fat. You are what you tell the universe you are. It doesn’t care one way or the other. Of course, if you know that you’re significantly overweight and you tell the universe that you’re thin, it feels like a lie. You “know” that you’re overweight, not just because of whom you hang around with, but you have a tape measure, a scale and a mirror as evidence that you don’t weigh what you’d like to weigh. Still, it’s important to keep in mind that it’s all relative.

As you focus on the way you want to be, not as wishful thinking, but assuming that role and thinking as if you’re already there, you create some conflict. You will most likely feel that conflict within, but you understand what that conflict is all about. So you can deal with it. The universe doesn’t know what to do with it. One of two things has to happen – either you have to go back to your old way of thinking (the one that matches your current reality) or the universe has to restore balance by bringing to you the thing that you desire and believe is yours. So keep thinking right and you’ll be far more likely to attract the positive changes in your life you desire.

If you’re struggling with emotional baggage that is interfering with putting these principles into practice, I recommend looking into getting some treatment using The Emotion Code.